Soni Brendle Divorce, Estate & Business Lawyers Fri, 11 Sep 2020 01:11:45 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Soni Brendle 32 32 NC Bar Association Post on Use of Technology Fri, 11 Sep 2020 01:11:45 +0000

Ketan Soni Presents “The New Community Platform”

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Keeping track of the kids in divorce:  Child Custody tips in Charlotte and North Carolina Thu, 03 Sep 2020 17:16:36 +0000 Keeping track of the kids:  Child Custody tips in Charlotte and North Carolina

Going through a divorce is difficult for any family.  Parents go through an emotional and financial rollercoaster as they try to figure out what lives will look like after everything is either settled or litigated in front of a judge.  I find that most divorcing spouses haven’t planned for the turmoil in their lives.  One of the most chaotic parts of divorce that spouses manage poorly is what happens with the custody schedule for the kids.  On top of these challenges, add COVID-19 to the mix in 2020! As August is here and the new school year has already started, check out these tips to make your life and the lives of your children easier.

  • Ditch the paper calendar when communicating.

Paper is great when the only person you have to manage is yourself.  You have to coordinate children, schedules, virtual learning, pods for kids, and former spouses.  Instead of paper, use technology to save your life.

Here are some ways:

  • Free Option: Google calendar. You can make a separate sub-calendar with your gmail account. One calendar can be all your “personal” stuff that you don’t share. A second calendar can be a “custody” calendar that you share with the other parent, the parents of your child’s pad, (and the children themselves!).   These calendars are easily accessible from any smartphone, as well.

 These calendars also allow you to “share” without letting others add dates. For instance, you can share the calendar with grandparents, uncles and aunts who are there to help you out during these trying time. Those folks can see the calendar, but they can’t add content.

You can add reminders, events, documents, modifications of the schedule, and notes.  Here’s a tutorial from Google:

These services will do what Google calendar does, and a ton more!  There are shared calendars, journals, expense logs, message boards, and information banks.  This app works on any smartphone.  For those families that never seem to escape the court system, you can also give access to attorneys or other professionals as you see fit.  An amazing feature is also the ToneMeter™, which tells you when message to the other parent need to be reworded!

You can find a description of the features here:

  • Print it for yourself

If you can’t completely let go of the paper calendar, go ahead and print it when everything is finalized on the electronic calendar. It’s ok to print, even though you’re killing a tree.

  • Plan in Advance.

The kids are going back to school.  You go to ‘Back-to-School’ sales and plan what the kids need, right? Do the same with the annual schedule, even though COVID-19 has destroyed the ability to plan far in advance.

Figure out which parent is supposed to get each holiday, teacher workday, and vacation day from now until June 2021.  Then, send an email to the other parent asking to confirm. Don’t wait until the last minute.

  • Figure out your work schedule.

If you travel for work, now’s the perfect time to get your travel schedule, if available. Communicate this schedule to the other parent.  Even though your order says “10 days advance notice”, why would you wait that long?  Decrease the conflict in your life. Also tell the other parent your job’s new travel policy. Since everything has changed, some parents are still flying. Others are grounded indefinitely. If you want to remove unnecessary conflict in your life, communicate even though you may not want to!

  • Review your Order/Agreement

Take 30 minutes and review your court order or parenting agreement every single year. There may be something you forgot, or something that changes, or something critical that you’re missing.  It won’t hurt to revisit the document that is supposed to govern your children’s lives.


Life for kids gets crazy when they go back to school. Don’t wait until one month into school to implement these tips. If you wait, you will never do it. Give yourself a 7-day deadline to get these tasks done.

  • What did I miss? What are your tips for creating better harmony?  Share your personal knowledge so everyone can have better relationships for the sake of their kids!
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Andrew Brendle and Ketan Soni on The Human Lawyer Podcast Wed, 05 Aug 2020 13:41:26 +0000

As busy attorneys, we don’t often get a moment to reflect on the life events that brought us to the present date. We had the opportunity to (virtually) sit down with Kevin Pratt at The Human Lawyer to talk about our different approaches to divorce and business law.

Take a listen as Andrew talks about his passion for being in the courtroom and using procedure to obtain the best results for his client when there are no options to resolve a case amicably. On the flip side, Ketan talks about his focus on helping others through the mediation and negotiation process while leveraging his technology and Excel skills to provide parties greater understanding of the agreements they try to reach.

Then, generally, we discuss our approach to different fee arrangements, efficiency in moving forward, and our mission and goals as a firm. Let us know your thoughts in the comments!

Ketan and Andrew

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Owning Property: Adjusting for same-sex marriages Wed, 08 Jul 2020 21:10:21 +0000

Just last month,  a North Carolina bill was signed into law which made language changes to how real property is titled. “Tenancy by the entirety” used to refer only A named man "and wife" or "A named woman" and husband. The change now adds "A named individual and wife, A named individual and husband, and a named individual and spouse". These might be technical "wording" changes, but great job on this #progress, North Carolina!

Read all the other (many) changes here:
#marriage #marriageequality #samesexmarriage #equality #progress #northcarolina #charlotte #law #lawyers

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The New Year: A time to reconsider old habits Mon, 24 Feb 2020 03:58:16 +0000 http://localhost:8080/soni-brendle/?p=122 January 1st of any year is an arbitrary period of time that happens to be the perfect chance to take a look backwards to see what you can do different going forward. This is true if you are divorce(ing) and especially true if you have children. Most people have had a little downtime…

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Tax Returns: April 15th looms right around the corner Mon, 24 Feb 2020 03:57:34 +0000 http://localhost:8080/soni-brendle/?p=120 April 15th looms right around the corner, and most people cringe when they think about completing tax returns. Filing taxes induces stress because of dealing with accountants, gathering records and receipts, and eventually paying a good chunk of your hard-earned money to the government…

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Is Reinventing the Wheel a Good Thing? – Part 1 Mon, 24 Feb 2020 03:57:00 +0000 http://localhost:8080/soni-brendle/?p=115 Is reinventing the wheel a good thing? Technology can be your friend, I promise. It doesn’t have to be high-powered, “in the cloud”, or pinging a reminder to you all the time. Using technology can simply mean discovering something new to access information quickly…

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